Today on RinseBeforeUse we have a special guest post from one of our longtime loyal followers – BklynBoy59. He regularly airs his views about love, relationships and related issues on his blog – One Man’s Opinion. Check it out if you are in need of some motivation.
In his guest post he provides some insights into what he wished he’d known about love in his 20s. We have no doubt his advice will come in handy for some of you young things out there.
We want so bad when we are younger to be grown. We think we know how life is supposed to be, we have all the answers yet we know none of the questions. Yet we fall in love or we think we are in love.
So here are the 5 things I wish I knew about love at 20 before I embarked on my adventures of the heart…
One thing I can say for sure …I wish I knew ME at 20. As odd as it sounds we think we know who we are at 20…so if you think you know who you are at 20 then you think you know love. Wrong.
2. Love Will Test You
At 20 I wish I would have taken more time to understand how the depths of love are tested in a young relationship. And I am not talking about infidelity I am talking about surviving and thriving th growing pains of love. The early parts are fun boy meets girl gets number dates girl …that part is fun. It’s when things get serious that is when the depths of love get tested.
3.Your Type Will Change As You Mature
I wish I knew what type of person I really was attracted to. Who you date at 20 especially if you end up marrying that person is not the same person in the later years , you are not the same person at that point. I am not the same person now as I was at 20. I wish I could go back in time and have a long talk with my 20 year old self.
4. Making Money (and Spending It Wisely) is Important in a Relationship
I wish I understood the value of money in a relationship when I was 20. I worked hard then now I work smart and value my time and money when I set out to do something. You might think this has nothing to do with love …but it does. Even the best relationships have a better relationship when both are making money and are resposibile with that money.
5. Listen To Your Gut, Not You Heart
I wish I listened more to my gut about love and less about my heart. Your gut will tell you one thing your heart over rides common sense and gets you to do crazy things that will convince you that you are in love …when in fact you are infatuated.
So Rinsers, What do you think about @bklynboy15’s insights. Are they similar to yours? From your personal experience what would you wish you’d known at 20? Would it have saved you some heartache? Get talking in the comments below.
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