When you’re single Valentine’s Day seems to be a really big deal. It seems like everyone around you has somebody to love and that you’re the only single person left in the Universe. This is, of course, not true and these days more and more single people organize Valentine’s Day parties and events for singletons. Even coupled friends organize parties for people with mixed relationship statuses (some of which openly boycott Valentine’s Day). Is the whole thing nay or yay, then? It depends how you look at it.
The commercial side of it, is crap. Disgusting Valentine’s Day presents lacking taste are all around you and the hype around the day makes it all quite yucky. Like with Xmas and New Year’s Eve there’s a lot of pressure around the day, everyone expects you to be doing something. If you’re single you should get a date or at least attend a party, if you’re coupled you should propose or conceive a child. It’s the Day of Love, after all! The imposed obligation makes us forget what it’s really about and makes it yet another “to-do” on our list. Additionally, some coupled people seem to take pleasure in making this day difficult for singletons out there. You know who I’m talking about – this married friend who asks you whether you’ve received any Valentine’s cards even though they know you’re single and who underlines that it’s been AGES since you broke up with your last boyfriend… Good news about this person is that you’re probably happier than she is, putting other people down makes her feel better.
To me, Valentine’s Day is a reminder to do something special with the significant other. The haters just keep repeating that they can have a special date with their other half whenever they want and they don’t need an annual event for that. The question is, however, how often do they do something out of their routine? How often do they spoil their loved one and add a little bit of magic to the romance? Most of us, say stuff like this but actually don’t mean it at all. In a busy world relationships get routinized and people forget to do anything extraordinary. If Valentine’s Day is in the calendar to add some sparkle to someone’s love life, it’s a good reason to have it there.
Valentine’s Day is also a good reminder of what you have in life, regardless of whether you’re single or not. A good group of friends who’ll drink with you till you pass out or a partner who’ll do the same, is all you need for to feel good about yourself ;). On a more serious note, it is a special day and as with any special day it does remind us about both good and bad things we have in life. Yet again, if Valentine’s Day is there just to make someone realise that they can’t keep raging about the opposite sex and should rather have a look at why they’re making wrong choices because they’ll end up as a sad spinster/bachelor, it’s a good reason to have it. If for someone else this day means an enlightened moment in which they understand that their partner is all they want and proceed to tie the knot, then the Day of Love serves its purpose.
To sum up, the commercial side of Valentine’s Day that has to do with pink roses, fluffy teddy bears and other last minute and out of obligation gifts is shit. Similarly crappy are any attempts to make people feel bad about being single that can happen on that day. There’s still a positive side of Valentine’s Day and that’s all the good things that can happen to people when they’re reminded about the Power of Love 😉 Oh and last but not least, if you’re wondering about the picture it’s a self-made card I prepared for my husband during an event organized by WomenInTechCPT.
Dear Rinsers, do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Do you have any particularly horrible or beautiful stories to share? The comments section is all yours!