Valentine’s Day: Yay or Nay?



When you’re single Valentine’s Day seems to be a really big deal. It seems like everyone around you has somebody to love and that you’re the only single person left in the Universe. This is, of course, not true and these days more and more single people organize Valentine’s Day parties and events for singletons. Even coupled friends organize parties for people with mixed relationship statuses (some of which openly boycott Valentine’s Day). Is the whole thing nay or yay, then? It depends how you look at it.

The commercial side of it, is crap. Disgusting Valentine’s Day presents lacking taste are all around you and the hype around the day makes it all quite yucky. Like with Xmas and New Year’s Eve there’s a lot of pressure around the day, everyone expects you to be doing something. If you’re single you should get a date or at least attend a party, if you’re coupled you should propose or conceive a child. It’s the Day of Love, after all! The imposed obligation makes us forget what it’s really about and makes it yet another “to-do” on our list. Additionally, some coupled people seem to take pleasure in making this day difficult for singletons out there. You know who I’m talking about – this married friend who asks you whether you’ve received any Valentine’s cards even though they know you’re single and who underlines that it’s been AGES since you broke up with your last boyfriend… Good news about this person is that you’re probably happier than she is, putting other people down makes her feel better.

To me, Valentine’s Day is a reminder to do something special with the significant other. The haters just keep repeating that they can have a special date with their other half whenever they want and they don’t need an annual event for that. The question is, however, how often do they do something out of their routine? How often do they spoil their loved one and add a little bit of magic to the romance? Most of us, say stuff like this but actually don’t mean it at all. In a busy world relationships get routinized and people forget to do anything extraordinary. If Valentine’s Day is in the calendar to add some sparkle to someone’s love life, it’s a good reason to have it there.

Valentine’s Day is also a good reminder of what you have in life, regardless of whether you’re single or not. A good group of friends who’ll drink with you till you pass out or a partner who’ll do the same, is all you need for to feel good about yourself ;). On a more serious note, it is a special day and as with any special day it does remind us about both good and bad things we have in life. Yet again, if Valentine’s Day is there just to make someone realise that they can’t keep raging about the opposite sex and should rather have a look at why they’re making wrong choices because they’ll end up as a sad spinster/bachelor, it’s a good reason to have it. If for someone else this day means an enlightened moment in which they understand that their partner is all they want and proceed to tie the knot, then the Day of Love serves its purpose.

To sum up, the commercial side of Valentine’s Day that has to do with pink roses, fluffy teddy bears and other last minute and out of obligation gifts is shit. Similarly crappy are any attempts to make people feel bad about being single that can happen on that day. There’s still a positive side of Valentine’s Day and that’s all the good things that can happen to people when they’re reminded about the Power of Love πŸ˜‰ Oh and last but not least, if you’re wondering about the picture it’s a self-made card I prepared for my husband during an event organized by WomenInTechCPT.

Dear Rinsers, do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Do you have any particularly horrible or beautiful stories to share? The comments section is all yours!


  1. I don’t understand why people say they hate Valentine’s Day. It’s the one day out of the year to celebrate love. If you don’t like the commercialized side of V Day, then don’t buy anything! Don’t have a significant other to share the day with? Then go out with friends and take advantage of the couples discounts, then go out the next day and snatch up all the discount chocolates. To me, people who don’t care for Valentine’s Day are jaded; they just need to be shown some love. If you haven’t seen it already, I’ve also posted my thoughts on this day of love.

    Happy Valentine’s Day, my friend.

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  2. So I definitely think Valentine’s Day is intended to make singletons feel inadequate. It could also be a ploy be the alcohol industry to get people to buy more booze to drown their sorrows. I certainly think there will be more drinking going on today than just any average Tuesday πŸ˜‰

    Once upon a time when I was coupled up. I’d actively look for things to do that were out of the ordinary and better than the average couple stuff. Most of the time we’d fail and either end up surrounded by other couples or crashed on the sofa with DVDs. But as you said, it’s all about the sentiment. The fact that Valentine’s day gets you thinking about love and whatever relationships you have in your life it’s a good thing.

    So regardless of whether it’s a romantic sunset cruise or just a bitch and moan with your bestie over copious amounts of gin (I’ll be indulging in the latter!) it’s all good! Well, think about it, things could be worse you could be stuck at home with a dog and some peanut butter or worse still out on a Tinder date with an ‘Indian’ Prince (true story!).

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    • I’m sure Mr T would be proud to be called your bestie πŸ˜‰ And yes, I think getting drunk with a friend is better than going on any date just to get out on a date. I actually saw a woman last night who ate her dinner in a restaurant on her own yesterday. Maybe her date stood her up or they had a fight or she just decided to spoil herself on the day of love. Anyway, the point is, she should be proud of herself because I don’t think many people and women in general would have guts to do it on Valentine’s Day. I don’t think the occasion is ther to haunt singletons but I know what you mean. I used to absolutely hate it when I was single mostly because of people asking you stupid questions about your plans for the evening. On the other hand, when a single person asked me today what did I do yesterday I felt it was polite to ask her back… Maybe it’s just the matter of perspective and some well meant questions are misread.


  3. Valentine’s Day now is strictly commercial it is for retailers to make money. Not for bars to find a way to make you more drunk. The history of Valentines day of it self had more to do with fertility and martyrdom than with just romance. It was at times deemed unchristian and outlawed depending on which of the stories you believe. In short one thought from The World Book Encyclopedia states: β€œValentine’s Day comes on the feast day of two different Christian martyrs named Valentine. But the customs connected with the day . . . probably come from an ancient Roman festival called Lupercalia which took place every February 15. The festival honored Juno, the Roman goddess of women and marriage, and Pan, the god of nature.
    That said it is important to remember like with anything one should not be held by holidays to tell that special someone in your life that you love them, that should be done daily shown often and loved from the heart.

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    • Thank for the interesting background about Valentine’s Day, I had no idea. On the other hand you surely know Xmas was taken from a pagan tradition πŸ˜‰ I’m just saying there’s a lot of cultural appropriation around and that customs do change from the original form. To me not getting into the commercial part of it is important…but I was happy to receive a rose yesterday πŸ˜‰ I think it’s really not such a big deal if we treat it reasonably.


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