2016 hasn’t been the best year for much of the world. 2016 was the year we realised how many haters were hiding amongst us with victories for the Brexiters and those pesky Trump fans. It’s been dubbed the year the music died with reference to all those famous musicians the 2016 decided to steal away for us. So it’s understandable that most of us are eager to see the back of this year.
For many the start of every new year is seen as a fresh start – a chance to do all those things we’ve been putting off since forever and day. Whether it’s finally losing your puppy fat, running that marathon or actually making a concerted effort to get online and find the love of life – as we move into 2017 most people will be looking to make positive changes and do things differently. And seeing as this is likely to be our last blog post for 2016 I thought it would be interesting to look at what this new year could potentially mean for us in terms of dating and relationships.
Learn from the past
If you are anything like me, you’ve probably had the same new year’s resolution for the past 15 years. If you find you aren’t winning when it comes to this one change you want to make in your life maybe it’s time to change your perspective. I’m not saying give up entirely but just that with a little bit of self-reflection you might learn you are chasing after the wrong things. So consider the option of jazzing things up a little bit…start looking for Prince Charming in the library instead of that seedy pub you always end up in or stop falling into bed with those smoking hot bad boys and expecting marriage proposals in the morning, and instead give that boy next door a second look.
Figure out what you want
Everyone establishes the resolutions for the new year with the best of intentions. However, the fact is that most of us aim too high by setting unrealistic goals (e.g. find a good looking man with half a brain and decent fashion sense, who is gainfully employed, isn’t overly reliant on his mumma, has a bit of banter and basically isn’t a philandering jerk – we really don’t ask for much, hey?) and for this reason it’s believed that most people have given up on their new year’s resolution by the 17th January. So to avoid failure it’s important to start by figuring out exactly what you want – maybe it’s do whatever you need to get over your ex? To have a fun summer fling? A long term relationship? Or to tie the knot?
Establishing what you want is a good start but even then success in dating/relationships requires hard work and a bit of a plan. You aren’t going to find your Prince Charming by sitting on your fat ass watching Sex and The City marathons. Start by taking baby steps – for example if you want to your man to pop the question it might be an idea to start dropping some hints and showing him you are ready for a bit more commitment and if you just want to get back into the dating game after a long period of single time it might just be a simple case of downloading Tinder.
To conclude, yes, 2017 marks a fresh start for some, an opportunity to get rid of the unhealthy things (or people) that no longer serve us and maybe a chance to do thing differently for those who are already in relationships. However, if you are someone who is looking to make some sort of sustainable change, it might require a little bit more thought and effort than simply making a grand declaration at the stroke of midnight.
Dearest Rinsers. Tell us about your new years resolutions for dating and relationships in the comments below. Are you looking to change old habits (or ditch an old relationship)? Or are you planning on working on yourself first before pursuing love? Do you have any words of advice for the rest of the world? Share your thoughts in the comments below.