New Year’s Dating Resolutions – Out with the Old?

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2016 hasn’t been the best year for much of the world. 2016 was the year we realised how many haters were hiding amongst us with victories for the Brexiters and those pesky Trump fans. It’s been dubbed the year the music died with reference to all those famous musicians the 2016 decided to steal away for us. So it’s understandable that most of us are eager to see the back of this year.

For many the start of every new year is seen as a fresh start – a chance to do all those things we’ve been putting off since forever and day. Whether it’s finally losing your puppy fat, running that marathon or actually making a concerted effort to get online and find the love of life – as we move into 2017 most people will be looking to make positive changes and do things differently. And seeing as this  is likely to be our last blog post for 2016 I thought it would be interesting to look at what this new year could potentially mean for us in terms of dating and relationships.

Learn from the past

If you are anything like me, you’ve probably had the same new year’s resolution for the past 15 years. If you find you aren’t winning when it comes to this one change you want to make in your life maybe it’s time to change your perspective. I’m not saying give up entirely but just that with a little bit of self-reflection you might learn you are chasing after the wrong things. So consider the option of jazzing things up a little bit…start looking for Prince Charming in the library instead of that seedy pub you always end up in or stop falling into bed with those smoking hot bad boys and expecting marriage proposals in the morning, and instead give that boy next door a second look.

Figure out what you want

Everyone establishes the resolutions for the new year with the best of intentions. However, the fact is that most of us aim too high by setting unrealistic goals (e.g. find a good looking man with half a brain and decent fashion sense,  who is gainfully employed, isn’t overly reliant on his mumma, has a bit of banter and basically isn’t a philandering jerk – we really don’t ask for much, hey?) and for this reason it’s believed that most people have given up on their new year’s resolution by the 17th January. So to avoid failure it’s important to start by figuring out exactly what you want – maybe it’s do whatever you need to get over your ex? To have a fun summer fling? A long term relationship? Or to tie the knot?

Baby Steps

Establishing what you want is a good start but even then success in dating/relationships requires hard work and a bit of a plan. You aren’t going to find your Prince Charming by sitting on your fat ass watching Sex and The City marathons. Start by taking baby steps – for example if you want to your man to pop the question it might be an idea to start dropping some hints and showing him you are ready for a bit more commitment and if you just want to get back into the dating game after a long period of single time it might just be a simple case of downloading Tinder.

To conclude, yes, 2017 marks a fresh start for some, an opportunity to get rid of the unhealthy things (or people) that no longer serve us and maybe a chance to do thing differently for those who are already in relationships. However, if you are someone who is looking to make some sort of sustainable change, it might require a little bit more thought and effort than simply making a grand declaration at the stroke of midnight.

Dearest Rinsers. Tell us about your new years resolutions for dating and relationships in the comments below. Are you looking to change old habits (or ditch an old relationship)? Or are you planning on working on yourself first before pursuing love? Do you have any words of advice for the rest of the world? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

 

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9 comments

  1. bklynboy59 · December 30

    I think the best thing you can do for yourself especially those looking for a relationship is know what you want BEFORE you start a relationship and look for someone who is like minded. Meaning if you are looking to get marriage look for someone who is also looking to get married, don’t purse a relationship with a player or a bad boy expecting them to want to get married as well. We both know that isn’t going to happen. Something you said I thought was interesting was dropping hints that you are ready for marriage hoping that they will ask…from my own experience it is something you both should be on the same page on before you even get that far …so there would be no need to drop hints. The same thing goes for those wanting to start a family don’t get involved with someone that doesn’t want kids when you do…

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    • EnglishRosiee · January 2

      Hey you !

      Happy New Year.

      I hope it is a good one for you 😀

      Your advice as usual makes perfect sense but I think the reality is people often have a habit of getting to involved in something before they realise that maybe they are not perfectly compatible with their partner.

      Of course, it’s a great idea to have an idea of our deal breakers before we get involved with someone BUT human relationships/desires are fluid. You may be an ultimate bachelor till you meet a girl who completely wows you and next thing you do a complete 360 and want the whole marriage and kids shabang.

      Anyway, thanks as always for your comments. We look forward to more in 2017.

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  2. E · December 30

    I dunno about you but 2016 was the best year of my life. I did things i never thought i would do in a hundred million years! There were of course some regrets, painful lessons and missed opportunities but i couldn’t have asked for a better year.

    I get what you’re saying in your post but the sad truth is that unfortunately most people lack the will to change.

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    • EnglishRosiee · January 2

      2015 was the year I got my heartbroken and did all that rebounding malarkey….so 2016 would have had to be profoundly bad to have compared to that.

      2016 really wasn’t all that bad for me. As I entered my 30s I figured out a lot of things, became more comfortable in my own skin and tried to be less of biatch/walk-over (still working on this). And things are looking better than they were a year ago…so I really can’t complain.

      What you say about lack of will to change is probably correct but I also think there are lightbulb moments/turning points that can act as a catalyst for change in a person’s life.

      Happy New Year.I hope it is a good one for you.

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  3. Yareally · December 30

    I usually connect with the under 25s, going out to what I call “kiddie clubs” and could find myself with someone who used fake id to get in, yareally not good. I’m 36, and in 2017 I need to search instead for someone special to maybe one day start a family. Wish me luck!

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    • EnglishRosiee · January 2

      Hey Yareally!

      Thanks for your comments.

      Good luck with the mission for 2017. Maybe try more up market joints aimed at older people – may give you a better chance of finding someone equally ready to settle down.Or possibly try online dating or meeting people through activity groups.

      Let us know how you get on.

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  4. charleybflint · January 19

    One year at the stroke of midnight on new years I decided to end a relationship. Best. Decision. EVER!

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    • EnglishRosiee · January 19

      Good for you !!! New Year is a good time to make a change I guess.

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