By now, you’ve all come to realise that I am a somewhat old fashioned girl (with a bad habit for silver foxes). And if I wasn’t feeling bad enough about turning 30, recently I’ve suddenly found I’ve been receiving an unprecedented amount of attention from younger guys. In some instances, I found myself reading through a profile and thinking ‘oh, this one has potential’ only to feel my heart sink when I saw he was only 26. Ugh, what’s with these young children?! Why are these young boys on the hunt for women that are old enough to be their mother? Mummy issues perhaps! Each to their own, but I personally prefer to steer clear of dating children.
Anyway this new development got me thinking again about the whole age difference issue in dating. We all seem to be a little bit more accepting of older men dating younger chicks but how about when the tables are turned? A quick google search shows that young boys dating older ladies is a phenomenon that is actually taking off. There are even websites dedicated solely to ‘Cougar’ Dating. For instance, one such site called Cougar Life advertises itself as a place to ‘meet divorces, single moms and sex singles looking for that young stud’.
And then we have our celebrity role models showing us how it’s done. Demi Moore dating Ashton Kutcher, 16 years her junior. Madonna, now in her 50s, has dated a string of men half her age and some of whom that are almost as young as her own son (eww!). Julianne Moore, Mariah Carey, Ivana Trump… the list of celebrity cougars goes on. Hmmm…. But where does one draw the line? Is age really nothing but a number? When does the age gap become too big?
I just don’t get the logic here. It’s easy to see why younger women date those silver foxes. It is quite widely accepted that girls mature at a much faster rate than men. We don’t have time to wait for our peers to catch up, so we need to look to the older generation for some action. We just don’t have the time or inclination wait for that 20/30 something guy to finish one last game on his Xbox – we need to get out there have our intellect stimulated by gentlemen that are more worldly wise.
But how does it work for these young boys? We are well aware of the rise of the ‘sensitive’ mama’s… so are the young ones just looking for some lonely lady that’ll provide them with everything mama does but with the additional benefit of sexual favours. But what about the baggage that comes with age? I’ve had to think twice about dating a baby daddy but we all know it’s mum that is usually left holding the baby after the relationship comes tumbling down. Can the fragile minds of these young boys really handle this kind of responsibility? I do wonder how their minds work.
Either way, I’m not convinced. While their attention maybe somewhat flattering (although in reality it just makes me feel rather elderly). I refuse point blank to entertain any of these little boys. Firstly, even looking at their pictures on a dating site makes me feel like a cradle snatcher. Secondly, I do believe that with age their approach to women will improve (well I certainly hope so). Being told by a 26 year old that he knew exactly what I was up to last Thursday at 6pm doesn’t really make me want to run into his arms and just screams STALKER!
OK, over to you dearest rinsers. What do you think of the Cougarlicious approach to dating? Ladies, have you ever dated a younger man? Did it work for you? And guys, what’s with the older woman obessession? Please do enlighten us. And what are the chances of relationships with such massive age gaps surviving? Answers in the comments below.