February is the month of LOVE and all the fabulous people (yes, I am February baby :P). And this year we got an extra-long February – an extra day to be LOVABLE and do LOVABLE things (that or just go on yet another Tinder date from hell). But for the modern, ’emancipated’ woman, this is not just an extra day. Once every four years, we get a February 29th aka Leap Day which is one of those rare occasions when old-fashioned gender stereotypes go out of the window and thanks to Irish folklore women can take control and propose to their man.
But I wonder how much does an occasion like Leap Day really shake up traditional gender roles does? Or is just an excuse for that chick who has been in an LTR for ever and a day to get down on one knee and force that spineless man of hers to marry her? Are there some men out there that would find such a proposal emasculating or are most of today’s mummy’s boys be secretly happy that the hard work has been done for them?
As I have established in previous posts, alpha males really are a thing of the past. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for women’s rights but is this whole leap day proposal thing just a symptom of our times where woman are being forced to wear the trousers because they have no other choice. There has been plenty of research to prove that woman are having to date down (in terms of intellect, men still generally earn more) but are these reversals in gender roles simply serving to make what is already very much a man’s world even more favourable for the…erm…MEN?
So, we’ve all heard this well-established belief that a man should spend three times his monthly salary on an engagement ring for his princess, right? Apart from the fact that this silly calculation was actually a ‘tradition’ (read: excellent, excellent marketing strategy) concocted up by De Beers to increase their diamond sales in the 1970s, do you really think many 21st century men are going fork out a small fortune for a bit of bling? I doubt it!
Call me old-fashioned and send me back to the 1950s (despite some of my friends’ best attempts I haven’t yet been persuaded to ask a guy out ever, even on Tinder….the best I could do is subtly hint that I like alcohol which in my world is a green light for them to offer to take me out for booze). But I think taking the leap and proposing to your man is yet another example of silly women indulging the mummy’s boys of the world who are a) too lazy to propose, b) scared of commitment or c) simply to broke ass to put a ring on it.
And it goes beyond popping the question. If gender roles are really changing shouldn’t men be taking over some of the traditionally ‘female’ roles in a relationship/marriage too? When a woman does the proposing or becomes the main breadwinner in a relationship shouldn’t real role reversal mean that the man takes over the cooking/ cleaning/ looking after the baby duties? Hmm…
Anyway Rinsers… this video has been doing the rounds on social media recently and I think it sums up what I am getting at more articulately than my bumbling rant does, so watch it and share your thoughts on leap day proposals and reversed gender roles in the comments below. Would you or have you proposed to bloke? Or are you a traditionalist, who believes that there are some jobs that should still be left to the boys? And guys, how would you feel if you chick popped the question?