I went to see “Deadpool” last week. For those of you who’ve been keeping their heads in the sand – “Deadpool” is a movie based on superhero comic book. It’s very un-PC and tells a story of a man who was Ryan Ryanolds and turns into an ugly superhero. It inspired my post today about changes in physical appearances of our partners.
First of all, the whole topic is very tricky. After all we’re supposed to love our partners for who they are and not how they look like. Yet, I remember an acquaintance of mine who was telling me that even though he knows he’s a bad person he couldn’t look at his ex-wife long before their divorce. He said that she stopped putting any effort into her looks and what bothered him the most was that her formerly slim calves turned into tree trunks. On some level I thought he was being horrible, on the other I appreciated his honesty. After all, he started to date an attractive woman who after marriage turned into a creature twice her former size and with never washed hair. Can one really blame him for losing interest eventually?
On the other hand, in the defense of the wife, she was the one taking care of the household. Can you then blame HER for paying less attention to her looks and slight food indulgence? A full-time worker and a full-time mom of two with a husband that helps at the house little or not at all definitely had her reasons as well. She also started to date a Prince Charming who turned out to be not much of a partner who of course he let himself go too but didn’t mention it in a story.
So far I’ve been only discussing the usual letting ourselves go. However, what if our partner undergoes a surgery and instead of getting a younger look becomes a parody of his former self? Jocelyn Wildenstein, so called Cat Woman, started to “improve” her appearances initially to please her husband and look more catlike. The husband didn’t regain interest in her, on the contrary, he left her for a younger woman. She continued with her surgical experiments and currently hardly looks human.
Last but not least, there’s the change that no one wants to think about. What if our partner really changed because of an accident or a disease? Would we stand by their side then? Of course we all want to say yes and judge those who had such experience in a real life for not doing the right thing. However, I don’t think we can know what we would do and I’m just hoping that none of us will be ever tested in that way.
So, Dear Rinsers, any thoughts? Have you seen “Deadpool”? Have you ever been in a similar situation? What do you think you’d do if you were? Share your thoughts in our comment section.