The Emancipated Woman?

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My friend and colleague, #englishrosiee and I ended up spending an evening last week watching a new release called “The Suffragete”. The movie is about the women rights movement in Britain and in particular about the fight to grant women the right to vote. You should feel empowered as a woman after having watched this movie, right? After all the fight has been won and we’re equal… But are we really?

I remember when back in high school I used to have militant feminist views. I thought that women are not only equal but better than men and I thought that being strong means to hide that you have any feelings. I was young and cocky and I definitely grew wiser but my ideas came from somewhere.

They were quite strongly related to the fact that the world still sees women as creatures who have to choose between two bags. Bag number one has inside family, feelings, household chores and bag number two career, ideals and emotional desert. The society isn’t particularly helpful with the integration of these two bags. It is the mother after all who’ll take maternity leave as paternity leave is mostly a joke. Imagine how much easier a woman’s life would be if instead of taking six months off work she would take three and the other three would be taken by a partner. Only that no one takes such ideas seriously.

An emancipated woman has to do it all. She doesn’t want to say no to career but she wants a family too. So she performs two full-time jobs instead of one and her frustration grows. Partners are being more helpful these days at home but look around – who’s rushing to pick up children from crèche if they’re sick, who works from home if the children can’t attend kindergarden?

Let’s consider more trivial examples of inequality. Try to wear something nice you’ll be cat called, try not to respond you’ll be called names. Look at your earnings and look at these of similarly educated men around you. Try to have a business orientated or technical career. Attempt at being middle management (so much harder as a woman) and then try to reach for the highest stool (nearly impossible). Stop shaving your armpits and legs. Swear in public. Scratch your crotch when having a conversation. Have sex with numerous people and boast about it. Do all that and then seeing the reactions still say that we’re really equal. And please also remember that it’s only the Western world.

In India female fetuses are often being aborted as female offsprings are not desirable. Girls in some African countries are being mutilated in a crime called female circumsticion. In some Muslim countries women are not allowed to do anything without the consent of their male guardian. Is all that not a proof that we just leave in a little bubble and the road to proper worldwide equality is still long and rocky?

Share your thoughts Dear Rinsers.

 

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8 comments

  1. bklynboy59 · January 26, 2016

    So much of those cultures that you mentioned about how they view women and how they abuse them , points to our western culture and say how racy and loose we are as their excuse for being so shall we say tight? Yet we have a few double standards of our own as well. A woman can hit on a man if he is uncomfortable and it is at work ad he reports it…he is viewed as less than a man and should …just take it …take one for the team …but don’t like it be the other way around and the man hits on a woman and then it is…sexual harassment. And that is just for openers.

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    • zlotybaby · January 27, 2016

      Yes, exactly. They often exaggerate with the vision of the western world and use to say – would you like your daughter tone like this? Well, if we grant them rights that’s where it will go.

      Of course, I’m against double standards.

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  2. EnglishRosiee · January 27, 2016

    Too many comments to make on this post.

    1. What is emancipation? Is the WISO an example of a truly emancipated women – after all she is liberated, treating men as sex objects just like they’ve treated womankind since forever and a day? Is she truly happy though and would we really want our daughters to be ‘liberated’ if this meant she’d be a WISO? I think its all well and good shouting about women’s rights but lets be clear on what we are. Sadly, I think more conservative countries look at the Western world and see these women acting all ‘open-mind’ and ‘sexually-liberated’ and use it as ammunition to justify their position in abusing woman and stopping them from driving cars, etc. Maybe, there is some middle ground. Everyone should be free to decide if they want to be a WISO…But do any of us really want that?

    2. Maternity leave. There are a progressive countries like Sweden which give people over a year’s worth of maternity leave and offer a huge chunk of that to the Daddy…but yes most countries are pretty backward in this area. But I personally kinda disagree with the whole concept of maternity leave in some sense. Why are we insisting on rewarding women/people for having a limitless number of children? If I was a manager of a company and I had two potential candidates with the same qualifications and one was male and the other female, both around the ages of 28-35. Which one would I go for? Most likely the guy. He isn’t going to need to take 6 months of work to go have a baby, right? The only way I see of overcoming this issue is to keep the maternity leave, but also start rewarding women of child bearing age who choose not to have kids. After all from an employers perspective she is a greater asset to the company. It doesn’t seem fair that women who choose not to have kids have to suffer for making a mature decision not to procreate.

    – Hope my comments don’t break too many spirits !

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  3. bklynboy59 · January 27, 2016

    wow wow wow you don’t think you are setting a double standard by doing that ? Rewarding someone for not having a baby or rewarding someone for being a guy and not a woman??? I agree the rules may need to be revisited company to company but to make a blanket statement like the above about hiring a guy because he won’t have a baby or rewarding a woman for not having a baby during her child bearing years ….you might want to re consider that.

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