Review: Why Men Love Bitches – Sherry Argov

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Following almost a year of mistakes when it comes to relations with the opposite sex, my dearest friend #zlotybaby decided I was in desperate need of this book.

I am not big into self-help but there comes a time when one keeps repeating the same patterns without getting anywhere new (aka insanity). I personally wouldn’t consider myself a nice girl. After all I am the girl that mastered the art of double parking, made a Tinder boy take care of me when drunk and subsquently (when sober) turned around and told him I really couldn’t date him because he was a downgrade on my ex, and let that dude believe there was a chance we could friends of an intimate nature when really all I wanted to do was cruise around in his Lamborgini Gallardo. Regardless, there have been a handful of guys that have somehow charmed me enough to get me to let my guard down and then BOOM it all ends in a broken heart!

Why?! Because deep down when it comes to the blokes we are into, we are all nice girls. According to this bestselling book this is where the problem lies. When we reveal our hand to early on and show the object of our desire that we like like them and are willing to go to great lengths to win their affections, that’s when they suddenly lose interest.

Apparently, (and there’s research to back it up) men like independent women. Those who have a life beyond finding a man and settling down. Men aren’t interested in finding a shadow that’ll follow them around or someone who’ll copycat all their hobbies but instead has their own interests (even if it’s tupperware parties) that make them tick. So it seems men like the thrill of the chase.

You’ll need to read the book to get all the details on how not to be a doormat, but I promise it’s pretty enlightening. In fact, I’d go as far as saying that any decent Mother should give this book to their daughters if they wish to prevent some of the heartache we all face at some point in our dating lives. If I am totally honest with you, it was painful reading at times (I actually had to take a break from it for a week because some of the facts were too much to handle). No joke – I truly cringed through most of it (cooking a four course meal for a dude after a week when he deserved nothing more than burnt popcorn – BOOM that was me!).

In the end, you’ll have lots of lightbulb moments while reading this book and realise where you’ve gone wrong in the past. However, the test for me will only come when I meet a guy that I actually like like (let’s see if I can exercise some self restraint and uphold a bitchy exterior). And until that day comes I’ll just continue practicing on the unfortunate looking/dull ones.

Ok, Rinsers…Have you consulted this Bible of Dating?  Do you agree with the author? Do you think the men will always choose the bitch (aka independent women) over the nice girl that’ll bend over backwards to please him?

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11 comments

  1. bklynboy59 · December 30, 2015

    wow ….I disagree with the author …most men like the idea of an independent woman until they are dealing with one because the IW is self sufficient and most men are used to needy clingy types. Also the author’s thoughts are not true of all men. Regardless of the research and numbers not all men like IW and will go for the nice girl…key word is Men …not boys…also woman love the thrill of the chase maybe more than the men.

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    • EnglishRosiee · January 4, 2016

      I think the book is actually aimed at helping women find QUALITY men, rather than Mr Mediocre. Usually the guys we like and have something going for them want a women who is also independent…that’s what attractive. They want something they’ll have to work for, not the chick that’ll fall at their feet.

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  2. 333smp · January 3, 2016

    Second time I’ve heard about this book in a week! I’ve got to get it now.

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  3. zlotybaby · January 3, 2016

    I think the big part of why we tend to be doormats is that society makes you one. Try to be single for a while longer and people immediately start wondering what’s wrong with you and whether you’re not being to picky. Knowing what you want in a partner is secondary to the vast majority. You should have a partner regardless of what’s the guys around you are like. This makes us bend and change to try to be more like what others may want us to be and makes us forget what
    WE want. And then we become what we’re thought to be – women desperate for a man, who’ll do anything for him.

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    • EnglishRosiee · January 4, 2016

      Yup… I guess this pressure to settle gets too much at some point and eventually you start to question your own judgments, make concessions on your deal breakers, etc. It’s not easy…but like she says it’s not just about attracting any man, it’s about finding a quality one. That is the hard part.

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      • zlotybaby · January 4, 2016

        And yet one should listen to their inner voice and nothing or no one else. Shit isn’t s rose even if you call it one 😉

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