The question polluting my mind at the moment: Can guys and girls ever just be friends? According to my sources (aka my friends and relationship gurus) apparently not! But I beg to disagree on this one.
Well, since what I hope just a phase of singledom started I seem to have accumulated a whole bunch of male BFFs, some of whom even began their lives as Tinder boys (aka Friend Zoning). And I have to say it’s rather refreshing. Some of the great things about having male friends is that a) they are just less high-maintenance that most chicks b) they can give you a male perspective on things without simply telling you that every guy is a douche bag (which although maybe true doesn’t necessarily help) c) they have the potential to be great wing-people d) the less girly ones can help protect you from bad people and e) they are generally good boozers and on occasion you can even rinse them for champagne at the Mount Nelson.
Sadly, the cynics/voices of reason in my life tell me that this happy-clappy world I live in is just an illusion and when I do eventually find my Prince Charming the majority of my newfound male BFFs will magically disappear. l somehow I don’t see this being true. Firstly, I am not arrogant enough to think that I am God’s gift to men and therefore it’s not possible for ALL these men to want special favours from me. Secondly, we generally tend to overshare details of our most intimate thoughts with our friends , something we won’t necessarily do with our romantic interests. I doubt dudes that have seen you at your worst – ugly drunk and perving on everything (except them) with a pulse – would seriously consider anything more than friendship with you. Finally, I’d like to think that we not all total animals and there maybe a few members of the opposite sex that we value more than a quickie down some dark alley.
Unfortunately, it seems that my views are at odds with the general consensus which states that if a man and woman spend too much time together eventually there will be some sexual tension/attraction and one party will eventually fall for the other. In some cases, they’ll act on it immediately have a one-nighter which may subsequently develop into a FWB/’Secret Sex’ arrangement. In other instances, the person may be sensible enough to quickly weigh up the pros and cons of such a move or decide the timing is all wrong and then simply disregard the silly idea. In rare cases, something real could come of it.
Ugh, this is all too horrible for my fragile mind to handle. So I hand this problem over to you, dearest Rinsers. Do purely platonic friendships really exist? What are your tips on dealing with unrequited love from a dear friend of yours? Can guys and girls ever go back to being ‘just friends’ after some form of romantic interaction has occurred? Answers to these conundrums in the comments below.