Sexy Times in a Shared Living Space

sexy times

Remember the old times when we used to stay at our parents house and the only way to get some time alone with our partner was when our parents were away? Meaning NEVER. And then the amazing adulthood came with it’s liberties… Only that not really.

The reality of young adulthood is a flat/room share. When you’re still a student, you’re either living in a rez, sharing a room or sharing a flat. Things don’t change that much when you start your career. There are some perks of the share – the main reason we do it is the lower rent. However, the biggest disadvantage is that when we have an actual partner the lack of privacy can get slightly annoying.

Imagine this scenario: romantic dinner at her place, the flatmates are out. You’re in the lounge, she’s cooked for you and over an after-dinner glass of wine you start a making out session. Don’t allow your hot-headed nature to take over, though, this couch may seem like a perfect place for some carnal pleasure but the flatmates may come back at any time. What’s more, you know Murphy’s law and you know they will come back if you stay right there where you are. Of course, if you move to the bedroom they’ll only come back in the morning.

Even the bedroom isn’t a safe space in a flat share. You still have to make sure that you keep your noise levels down when flatmates are around. I know many develop a habit of putting the music on but I assure you that the reason why isn’t a secret and a flatmate knows very well what’s happening between the closed door every time you listen to this techno mix.

The worst is, of course, being caught with no clothes on. It’s not that much better, however, when you’re in the act and quite noisy and you don’t hear that the flatmates getting back till after the deed is done. You know they heard you and your partner moan and the beds(!), they’re so bloody noisy! You can hide after that for a while, you can maybe even manage not to pee and you always thought that eating was overrated anyway, but eventually you will have to go out. Then you see your flatmates and you know that they know and they know that you know that they know. AWKWARD. In a male flatmates version of events if you’re a guy and so is your flatmate you may not be able to escape a conversation and a high-five (Look at their elbow. ALWAYS look at their elbow).

The not-so-secret sexy times are embarrassing for the couple but think about the poor flatmates! Someone in a relationship will probably be understanding and entertained (if it’s not an everyday situation). What if your flatmate is single, though? Ouch! Listening to others having sex when you’re not getting any isn’t nice at all.

Solutions? If one of you were lucky enough to get a good deal and has a bachelor you can opt to use that flat more often. When two apartments don’t make that much sense anymore you can also consider a relationship upgrade called “moving in together” but ideally that move should have your deeper needs as motivation and not only the possibility to have sexy times privately. This, however is a topic for another post. If you’re both stuck in the flat share for the foreseeable future consider getting a variety of CDs and remember that one day you’ll think about this time nostalgically.

Now to you, Dear Rinsers, would you like some to share some of your embarrassing stories? Maybe you want to tell us what your favorite sex CD is/was?

16 comments

  1. I have always picked a shared flat based on the floor plan! No walls shared between the bedrooms! One time I was in a three bedroom, so I picked the one at the farthest point – great for me, not so great for my third flatmate who was stuck with adjoining walls to a girl with a new, very “lovey” boyfriend and the bathroom… the living arrangements only lasted about 6 months!

    Liked by 2 people

  2. We used to use the old sock on the door knob trick but one night I lost my flat mate at a club and came running home worried, ignored the sock and caught her at it with a random. To say I was traumatised is an understatement.

    And you don’t need a significant other to upset the flatmates. I lived with one chick who’d openly brag about her collection of sex toys….its was all a good LOL for us until she’d decide to enjoy an evening of self service… I don’t think it was even just the flat mates that could hear her happy times. Pretty sure the whole neighbourhood were aware.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Hahaha, well she definitely isn’t an ordinary girl! I don’t know, though, I think self pleasuring for a long term gets sort of sad. You probably wondered about her all the sexist questions like “what’s wrong with her?”, “doesn’t any man want her?” Etc

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.