I always thought it was the historian in me and a fascination for the past that explained my attraction towards older men (I could listen forever as they tell me about how hard life was during the war 😉 ). However, the fact is I am not alone in my love of the Silver Fox. It seems that many of my peers too are with me on this one. So what is that draws us pretty young things to these grey-haired, wrinkly, antique relics from a bygone era? And more importantly, what are the red flags our innocent minds should look out for when on the hunt for a sugar daddy?
Much of the reason young ladies are attracted to older men boils to down to MONEY and Power. Yes, I’m afraid it is true…there is a little bit of a gold digger in every one of us. Lets face it, a gentleman in his 40s or 50s is more likely to be established in his career (I can totally understand why Monica Lewinsky did Bill Clinton), own property and drive a fancy car while a guy in his late 20s/early 30s probably splashes his cash on craft beers and lap dances at Mavericks. Having money and knowing how to spend it wisely is attractive to a lady. Lets just say that if Fifty Shades of Grey was set in a township, mummy porn would have really never taken off in such a big way.
I think it’s fair to say that with age comes wisdom. A man who enjoys the finer things in life such as good wine, fancy food, theatre, literature, etc. also has more to talk about than boys our age (yes, it really would be a push to call them men) who can at most discuss the intricacies of computer games, football and the porn industry (topics which will generally fail to hold the attention of any educated person for more than a few minutes).
But now let’s consider the flip-side of all this. Why are these eligible Silver Foxes still single at such a ripe old age? They are:
a) Divorced (and with that comes baggage aka kids – do you really want to play Mummy when you are still a kid yourself?)
b) Not divorced. They just left the wife and kids at home. (Been there, done that and the fool had the audacity to lie about his age, saying he was 39 instead of 49 and I was the even bigger fool for falling for it).
c) A commitment-phobe (they are NEVER going to settle for anyone. Don’t kid yourself. The day you turn 30, your sugar daddy is trading you in for a younger 21 year old model. FACT).
d) Someone who ‘wasted’ their youth being all career focused and now they are married to their job (not always a bad thing but just understand that you will always be second best).
And have you ever considered that it might not be the bloke that is the problem? Might be time for us to be a bit self-reflective ladies. What the hell is wrong with you – dating a man old enough to be your father? Ewww. Daddy issues perhaps? Consider the fact that as attractive as these Daddy-O’s may be, there is going to be a time when the age difference becomes an issue. For instance, how about the day you wake up full of energy and decide to hike up Table Mountain but the relic just had a hip replacement, so it’s not going to happen. What about when his pension money runs out and he can’t take you out dancing in Camps Bay? And then there is the all-important bedroom department, remember you are still a spring chicken, part of the Sex and the City generation, and fully ready for a marathon session of passion but have you considered how you’d feel if the little blue pill doesn’t work on the Old Codger? Just saying.
Now over to you dear readers. We want to know your views on male cougars. Are you a fan or do you steer clear of Old Timers? Do share your stories – the Good, the Bad and the Wrinkly.